- Moving out your comfort zone is less scary than you think
Back in July I jumped on a flight on my own and volunteered in Marrakech to help disadvantaged children and feed the homeless. Something I wouldn’t have dreamed of doing just a year ago – and a life-changing experience I will never forget. Anticipating the trip was exciting and scary at the same time. For one, I’d never flown alone before and all these fears came up that I couldn’t do it. But the urge inside of me to take this trip was far stronger than any negative thoughts that I’d fail. Now I have amazing memories and have so many stories to tell about my travels – from swimming in the Ouzoud Waterfalls to camping overnight in the Sahara Desert and riding a camel through the dunes. All this wouldn’t have happened had I not stepped outside my comfort zone. And it’s nowhere near as scary as you might think.
As Stephen King said, “The scariest moment is always right before you start.”
- Tomorrow is uncertain and full of surprises
I go through periods where I expect the next day to go a certain way – but those are the very times the unexpected happens! When I plan a day and think I know exactly what’s going to happen, that’s when life steps in and throws a curveball. That’s one of the things I love most about life. It keeps surprising us.
Things can change in an instant so we need to focus on what is most important. At the end of your life, what will you regret more? Not cleaning your house that day or not telling your soulmate you love them one last time? Don’t wait until it’s too late. Don’t wait until your loved one is gone before you say what needs to be said. Take their hand in yours and tell them “I love you.” Text, call, Skype, or FaceTime them. See them in person if you can. Look into their eyes. Hug them. Do whatever you need to do. Just make sure you do it. If we don’t stay in the present moment and stay glued to our phones we will miss the magical moments that make life special.
- People come and go… and come back
Past, present and future are linked more than we know. This year I have done a lot of soul-searching and considered the fact that where we are now is a result of where we have been.
In 2015 I’ve probably had more chance meetings and coincidences than I’ve ever had. Just when I think I’ll never see a person again, bam! There they are right in front of me.
I believe the past resurfaces to trigger a part of us. Seeing a person from your past could be reminding you how far you have come from the person you used to be. It could be to show that you need to reconnect with that person you just bumped into. Or you may need to reconnect with who you were back when you were close to them.
It could also be a test. A test of how you react, of whether you are over someone or not. Whether you have learnt your lesson from that person. Your reaction in that moment determines what stage you are at in your growth. I don’t believe you can “pass” or “fail” this kind of test though – that’s missing the point. We are all continuously growing and each experience pushes us forward toward our greatest potential. Each layer we remove brings us closer to our greatest version of ourselves and moves us toward healing.
Everyone is a product of their experiences and we cannot deny the past or pretend it doesn’t matter. Experiences shape who we are and make us the people we are today.